Be blameless in my own words, don`t take things personally, don`t make assumptions and always do my best, these four promises are hard to keep, but as soon as I became aware of these four promises, things moved in a positive direction. If we have made relationship agreements (regardless of the relationship) that the sharing for information purposes is done in the name of intimacy and not a complaint or an invitation to fix something to protect me from the emotional reactions I create myself. IMPRESSIVE. It`s a vulnerable intimacy and it can go anywhere (no ties to the outcome). Where it goes towards more truth, especially when the person who hears this sharing can go into YOUR emotional body and find out what is happening in reaction to the sharing and then share HIS emotional truth at this moment. I think I understand now. Miguel writes about right and wrong, truth and lies – but it`s just his opinions – that shouldn`t be taken at random because my feelings tell me something else. I don`t know if Ruiz remembered John 1 badly, if the quote was mistapped, if it was a statement about the Eternal Being* and *est* or about the illusory nature of time, or if there was another reason to replace “is” with “was.” I read that and I fully understand the points he was trying to make. It is a little more sustained when you read the voice of knowledge. We learn everything when we grow up, some of what we “learn” is not positive. Many of us had parents, either young or abused themselves, and we learn their “beliefs” habits and patterns, while learning to count, speak, read, etc.
Before the age of three, there is no anger. We repeat the actions of our guardians and authorities as children, to obtain love, comfort and emotional support from them. We repeat their pattern because it makes them love and makes us recognize the behavior. On the other hand, what we have done could be interpreted as “false” and punished. Perhaps this punishment was severe or unfair and gave us an emotional memory of pain and fear. The repetition of similar fears makes this reaction a “behavioral model.” Child who wants love, you will make more efforts not to upset this janitor and probably repeat the plot that the enemy punishment has provoked to “fix” it. The result will be similar. These beliefs can begin as fear when they are confronted with repeated memories and emotional traumas, fear eventually becomes anger, hostility, hatred, resentment, and we learn to respond to the suggestion.
Where did love go? You can unlearn these patterns. You can see what caused the emotion, change the way you perceive it, and get a different emotional reaction result for future episodes. Finally, you will perceive it and move the result. Maybe you could even go back and forgive your parents, even if they were abusive, because they didn`t know anything else because of something they learned as behavior. It`s like changing the past, when you can see everything and see everything and feel differently. It may take a little soul search to find love in it, to heal oneself. I discovered that people who have different levels of formation, and especially spirituality, read volumes “differently.” I read the book and felt good, maybe a little irritated by chapter one, and that might represent a belief I still have to work on. .